Choose the Handle That Holds: A Guide to Living, Leading and Owning the Moments That Matter, Choose the Handle That Holds: A Guide to Living, Leading and Owning the Moments That Matter

Leadership isn’t granted with a title— it’s built in the choices you make every single day.“Becky gets real about the challenges of leadership, making it feel both attainable and deeply human—a must-read for those who want to lead with authenticity and courage.”— Kellie Wells Brinkley, Olympic Bronze MedalistForget what you’ve been told about leadership. It’s not about power, prestige, or waiting for permission. It’s about showing up—fully engaged—and owning the moments that matter.In Choose the Handle That Holds, Becky Schmooke dismantles the myths that make leadership seem exclusive, proving that real leadership isn’t about a job title, but about how you lead yourself and others through life’s toughest moments.Through candid storytelling, humor, and deeply relatable experiences, Becky brings leadership back to what it’s meant to be: a way of living, a mindset rooted in intentionality, resilience, and the time-tested wisdom of Stoicism.This book is packed with practical tools to help you build each of the four pillars of SAFE, ensuring you’re not just learning about leadership, but actually applying it in every aspect of your life.It also covers how to communicate effectively, how to navigate difficult conversations, and—perhaps most importantly—what to do when you grab the wrong handle.Because mistakes happen. The key is knowing how to put back the pieces and seal them with gold—stronger, wiser, and ready to move forward.Master the SAFE Leadership Framework:Strength: Stand and Act with Integrity• Know yourself first—self-awareness is the foundation of strong, values-driven leadership.• Anchor every decision in integrity—act with honesty and courage, even when it’s uncomfortable.Agility: Adapt to the Needs of the Moment• Recognize when to pivot—rigid plans fail, but adaptable leaders thrive, knowing when to adapt to either stay or change the course.Flexibility: Reach for Curiosity in Adversity• Reframe obstacles as opportunities—leading with curiosity, not fear.• Use every challenge is a chance to grow.Endurance: Value Process Over Outcome• Identify the outcome that matters.• Success isn’t just the result—it’s how you get there, the process that allows you to stop chasing outcomes and start shaping them.Change your Life with STOA!STOA is a framework for goal setting and debriefing — turning intention into action. With STOA ,you achieve success, sustain it, and continue to raise the bar.Who This Book Is For?Anyone ready to stop passing time and start leading their life.MORE Praise for Choose the Handle That Holds“Becky’s insights offer a fresh perspective on valuing process over outcome. A must-read for athletes and anyone seeking a more meaningful life.”— Nate Kaeding, NFL Alum & Entrepreneur“Becky Schmooke is a fresh new voice elevating Stoic wisdom for those striving to live with wisdom, courage, equanimity, and joy—circumstances be damned.”— Ned Johnson, Coauthor of The Self-Driven Child“Choose the Handle That Holds is a powerful, heartfelt guide. Becky shares leadership wisdom that sticks—practical, authentic, and built to last.”— Captain Brett Crozier, US Navy Retired, Author of Surf When You CanStop waiting. Start leading. Own the moments that matter. Get your copy of Choose the Handle That Holds today!